Long Lasting and Happy Relationship – Is It Real?

Is it possible to have that perfect long lasting, loving relationship? Love relationships are based on sentimental values and thoughts but also on real life situations and feelings and not on romantic idealism. It is essential that each partner be emotionally healthy to be able to commit to a stable long lasting relationship.

There are a few elements that should exist in each individual before a stable relationship can occur and they are:

• Personal Integrity – Those people that know who and what they want out of life are true to themselves. A successful relationship is based on two whole individuals who know who they are and what they want out of life. When they know this they are more willing to share who they are, and respect others for who they are and what they want out of life. People who are always changing their opinion and don’t have any direction in their lives are less likely to have long lasting successful relationships. They are not content with themselves or with what they accomplish in life, and so find it hard to share what they don’t have with another person. A person who is secure in himself or herself has happiness, serenity, and dignity, all qualities that are worth sharing with another person.
• Personal growth – Another important factor in keeping that perfect loving relationship is to focus on personal growth. Partners should embrace and motivate each other in their personal growth. If it’s not taken into account the relationship becomes stagnate and doesn’t evolve. Healthy relationships create space and time for self improvement if a person’s evolvement is influenced by his or her partner in a negative way it causes domination and dwarfs the other person’s growth. When this happens to a couple they stop enjoying each other’s company and the spontaneity of the relationship. When people grow within a relationship they tend to care for each other more and share more of themselves. This caring and sharing then becomes even more important than the shared sexual relationship.
• Love yourself before expecting anyone else to love you – Waiting for someone to dedicate their entire life to you is the stuff of romantic novels. In real life no one can dedicate themselves entirely to another. If one of the goals of the relationship is personal wellbeing and the knowledge that each individual is responsible for their own well being then the relationship will be a strong one and will probably be a lasting one. In other words the principle of I’m O.K. your O.K. is well founded here, and is essential for a long lasting loving relationship. This status of wellbeing is not possible when we are controlled by our emotions and not in control of them.

When your life is full and enriched and you value yourself you are more capable of giving and receiving love in a healthy relationship. Each of you seeks self improvement and self love, and is willing to share these qualities with each other. This then allows you to admire and respect the other person and also allows you to continually be interesting to your partner. When both partners seek this well being and self improvement and share their knowledge and feelings, then it is almost certainly a very strong and loving relationship that is not based on sexual interest alone.